Disclaimer. This rant is not directed to
those few for whom I know for a fact are the good exception.
This is for
the other 99% of society. This post will ramble and have absolutely no
rhyme or reason. Yes, I will be cynical and harsh, but these are my
thoughts churning. Delete me if you shall.
Suicide, death, and moving away. People fall all over themselves in displays
of how much they themselves are destroyed because someone they claim to
have cared for have killed themselves, have died, or have moved away.
So, how many of these people were actively involved in the persons life
in the first place?
I read countless posts on Facebook about
individuals who want to go someplace, do something. Friends who have
countless friends, and yet this individual gets no responses. I read of
countless individuals who miss their friends back home, and yet how many
of those dear friends back home who deeply care and miss their friend
actually make a trek to go visit? I read of bulwark members of a family
asking for assistance with some project, and the request goes
unanswered. I know of sizable families whose numbers keep growing and
even though they are in the same locale, can go weeks without seeing
each other.
There are a thousand and one reasons for a person
to kill themselves, and yet it seems to boil down to one -- they wanted
connection. It is the common human experience, as common as the sun
rises and sets. Yet, humans in life are a mere drop in the bucket.
People talk and talk and talk about wanting to have a connection with a
group. A person common to that group will organize a gathering, and
where are all the people who posit themselves as wanting this gathering?
Persons give and give of themselves.
What happens to a plant
that is never watered? Does it keep on continuing to share its beautiful
blooms? Do you ever use your vehicle without ever refueling it or
changing its oil or such proper and common maintenance? Why then do we
think we can do this with our friends, drain them dry of any use? How
often do we purpose to refuel our friends?
Society is becoming
more and more and more closed off to intimate human connection. We have
the cyberspace to keep connected and keep us away from personal
meet-space. I read an advertorial in a local magazine of a homebuilder.
Their selling point for their duplexes and twin-homes? "We have designed
these homes so you can go weeks without ever hearing or seeing your
neighbors." In a freaking twin-home where the neighbor is in the same
building.
Do not dare to think this about me. Do not dare
direct this back at me. My life is what it is, and it is good. I have my
own fingers pointing back at me. No. Direct it at you.
Get
involved with people. If you are going to rally around a person in a
crisis, but are not involved with them in the mundane trivial aspects of
life, how much better are you for having put on a grand show of your
presence? We are all so very busy, we don't even have time for
ourselves. Yeah, so what? Is your laundry more important than the person
who posts on Facebook that they want to get together with someone to go
watch a movie? Really? Sheesh.
Are there any answers?
Probably not? Not until we actually get outside of ourselves and humanly
interact with another? Do I ever really practice what I rant on about,
no? I too fail. Life is the great mystery.
